Are You Even Ready for 'The One'?

If you are looking for a real relationship, one that will stand the test of time, one that may bring you the love of your life, there are a few things you need to know. When in search of 'the one' the first thing you have to do is stop searching. That's right. Looking for love is almost a guaranteed step into the wrong relationship or a leap into another year of reservations for a party of 1. Sometimes, during the course of searching for love we can find ourselves forcing a relationship to work that just was not meant to be. Yes, I know all about the fear of spending the majority of your life alone, the ever piercing biological clock for women and the 'all my friends are doing it' rhetoric for men, but the reality is, love is not something that comes with a time table. While we can plan our lives year by year, month by month, and week to week there is no definite plan to secure love.

Let love find you, and do the best you can to be ready for that special person to enter your life. In other words, work on yourself, and what you will bring to the table. For starters, are you stable? That is a loaded question, but extremely important if not the most important question to ask yourself. Being stable does not mean you have a boat-load of money in the bank, live in a mansion, and practice corporate law. Stability consists of your mental, emotional, and even spiritual balance. Mentally, you know you can be by yourself and are ok with you as an individual. No one in this world is the perfect version of themselves, but at least you continue working on being a better version of you than you once were. Emotionally, you are open and capable of being loved and giving love. You have given yourself time to repair the wounds made by previous relationships, can look at the scars as lessons learned, are done picking at them, and ready to move forward with your life. Spiritually, you are simply centered. You are in a good place and found contentment with the life you lead and the people you have been blessed to have in it. Overall, being stable means you do not need someone, but you desire the connection of sharing your love and life experiences with another person.

'The One' could very well be looking you in the face everyday, but you have to be open to the possibilities. Show yourself ready. Smile more, do the things you enjoy more, socialize more, and dress the part when doing it. If you are walking around with your coocka hanging out, the guy that picks you up is certainly not looking for a long term relationship. Fellas, if your pants are more than 6 inches below your belly button, no real woman is taking you seriously unless you go by the names, Jay-Z, Lil'Weezy, or T.I.P., and as far as I know, at least 2 out of 3 of those men are married and know how to put on a suit too. Just always walk with your best foot forward and be available- not desperate, but available. In the meantime, continue to better yourself. I always say, a better you is better for everybody around you too.