The Answer Key

Yet another friend is headed for divorce court. It makes me wonder, how they determined when it was over? What or who pushes the big red button for the last time? Is there a certain number of infractions, the severity of one, does the issue seem too big to fix, or are there just too many issues altogether? At what point do you decide to cut your loses and walk away? I can not understand how the same two people who loved each other so much that they were secure enough in their relationship to go before their family, friends, and whatever God they serve to declare their love and commitment to each other forever, could also one day, just decide to walk away. To find oneself at the polar opposite end of your feelings towards the same person you once planned to spend the rest of your life with is unfathomable to me. I thought the idea behind marriage was acknowledging that what you have received and are also willing to give and share with a...

Yet another friend is going through a divorce and I asked myself- how do we keep getting here? Why are so many seemingly happy couples before their marriage doing a 180 within the first 3 years? What changes and are those changes, if any, so drastic that divorce is the only answer? For starters, I think the beginning of the end begins with you. Many 20-30 somethings get to a certain age, and decide that to fit the timeline they have set for themselves (or someone has set for them), they need to get married soon or as soon as possible. That is the first trending mistake- deciding to get married before finding the one worthy of marrying you. Having that statement in the forefront of your mind changes how you interact with your potential mate. They begin to look like contestants for a game show or applicants for a job instead of lifelong partners. Your relationships become more calculated and you keep tally of how you can make it work instead of weighing the attributes...

When I first began blogging, I was asked by several friends if I would do any posts on marriage, and when. I have a real appreciation for the help I've been able to give those wanting to be married, those that are happily married now, and those that are courageously fighting the flames of divorce off of their marriage on a daily basis. The following is the foundation. We, my husband and myself, believe with a strong foundation even the heaviest of burdens can be laid down and the structure they fall upon will remain unshaken; well, maybe shaken, but not destroyed. If you would like to be married one day, these are some of the important things you should consider before doing so. If you are happily married, congratulations; read along and nod your head. If your marriage is in peril; take these words to begin getting back to a simpler place. Find, fix, and even rebuild your foundation. It is never too late as long as everyone is still willing to put in the work. Marriage consi...