Positive Decision-Making

It is critical to our happiness that we make decisions that have a positive impact on our lives. While the decision may not be popular, it may very well save us from unnecessary disappointment in the future.We often times neglect or refrain from doing the things in our best interest because of what we want in the now. We can create our own obstacles and unconsciously do or not do what we would otherwise recognize as beneficial to us solely, because it goes against what we want instead of what we need or is best for us. Take a moment to weigh your odds. Sometimes the very thing we want most is just not in our best interest. Unfortunately, our vision can be clouded by our desire, the desire can become bigger than our bigger picture, and therefore overshadow the manner in which we can better help, comfort, aid, or relieve ourselves from a dire situation.

We can literally work against ourselves, become the villain in our own life's novella. In fact, the constant fight and repeated effort to force a negative to be a positive will drain us of energy we could and should be investing somewhere else. The man/woman, job, or even clothing (for example) may simply not be the right fit. It is like trying to force a puzzle piece to fit in a slot where it does not belong. (Here is where we rip the band-aid off.) No matter how hard you try, it just will not sit right, and when all is said and done, that partner will stress you, that job will overwork you, and those clothes will make you look ridiculous and likely lower your self-esteem. Refusing to make decisions that will benefit us (despite their difficulty) will have the adverse effect. Ultimately exhausting ourselves trying to make something or someone, something or someone they are not is a recipe for disaster.

With that said, here is the key: every person, every thing you have and do should add value to your life. We can push and try and struggle to get, keep, or squeeze them into a specific place that we would like them to hold in our lives, and we may even pretend they belong there for a while, but eventually the obvious will be inevitable. Holding on to the people, things, and actions that have no value, take away more than it puts in, or hinders you from being your best self is a detriment to you and will halt your personal growth. Be conscious about your decisions, know why you are making them, and evaluate the impact they will have on your life. Do not be afraid to keep sifting through those puzzle pieces.When you find the right piece it will fit perfectly, and you will be satisfied knowing it was the piece you were missing all along, and now it has been found.