Satisfaction Guaranteed

I know we would all like to live in a world where our relationships are perfect. A place where everyone's needs are met without hesitation or delay is euphoric to say the least. The truth is, there is no such place. Now that that has been established, let us address how we get what we want from the relationships we have. How do we ensure that our needs are met?

Communication is the only way. While we would like to think our needs are simplistic, obvious sometimes you actually have to say what it is you want. Sadly, most people are not mind-readers. While others may be extremely intuitive, innately considerate, or good at guessing, others may need a little help. If you find yourself in a place where your disappointments begin to overshadow your happiness within your relationship the only way to solve the problem is to address it. Saying how you feel may come with some anxiety. I will be the first to say that vulnerability is not an attribute I am terribly familiar or comfortable with, but shedding light on your issue is the only way to understand why your needs have not been met, and the answer will give you clarity and direction on what you should do about it.

Ignoring the necessity of effective communication will only leave you wanting and without which will soon be accompanied by resentment and frustration if they are not already present. Communication gives the other party the opportunity to have a better understanding of your position and potentially the motivation to make a compromise. It may be a simple oversight on their part that can be easily corrected, and even if it is not, they will have the opportunity to explain their position to you as well. That clarity between you is unarguably necessary to figuring out your next course of action. No matter how difficult or scary a discussion may be, the clarity is priceless, and having that information will lead you to what needs to be done to rectify your discrepancy. The best way to move forward is with the power of clarity and forgiveness. Only then will you know exactly what you need to do to guarantee mutual satisfaction.

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