Love or Loneliness?
The best relationships are formed from a truly pure and unexpected place- no premeditation. What begins as an innocent friendship can suddenly become the love you've been waiting for. A stranger on the street can become the love you never saw coming. A blind date can turn into the love of your life. Love can develop and make its way into our lives when we least expect it, and be a beautiful thing destined for longevity.
Many relationships do not have longevitity because of the initial intent behind its establishment. Many people suffer from an alarming biological clock, pressure from family members, a self-imposed schedule, or simple loneliness. These obstacles can lead to poor relationship decisions. The girl that "gets around" can change, the guy that smokes more pot than Bevis and Butthead can quit, and that on-again off-again relationship can really work out if you just give it one more try. These relationships are forced and destined for disaster.
The forced versions of love are hardly ever for keeps. You should be with someone who loves and accepts you for all that you are, faults included, and you should feel the same for them. Any other premeditated reason is simply not love. The person is a space-filler until the real thing comes along. You can not make someone be "the one". It's possible to put on a show and act it out, but it won't be real. No matter how hard you try you can not and should not change who you are just to be with someone. Changes made for the sake of keeping a relationship going will not stick. Any changes someone makes in their life has to have their own positive, personal intent for it to have a lasting effect. If you are going to make changes in your life, let it be for the betterment of you and no other reason. Then let love find you.
Here's the key, loneliness is a state of mind. Just because you are single does not make you lonely. Being single only means that you have the option to spend time with whoever you want, whenever you want, for as long as you want, and you can enjoy time by yourself doing things you enjoy doing for yourself. Until love finds you, take time to get to know yourself and what love will look so you will know it when you see it.
Many relationships do not have longevitity because of the initial intent behind its establishment. Many people suffer from an alarming biological clock, pressure from family members, a self-imposed schedule, or simple loneliness. These obstacles can lead to poor relationship decisions. The girl that "gets around" can change, the guy that smokes more pot than Bevis and Butthead can quit, and that on-again off-again relationship can really work out if you just give it one more try. These relationships are forced and destined for disaster.
The forced versions of love are hardly ever for keeps. You should be with someone who loves and accepts you for all that you are, faults included, and you should feel the same for them. Any other premeditated reason is simply not love. The person is a space-filler until the real thing comes along. You can not make someone be "the one". It's possible to put on a show and act it out, but it won't be real. No matter how hard you try you can not and should not change who you are just to be with someone. Changes made for the sake of keeping a relationship going will not stick. Any changes someone makes in their life has to have their own positive, personal intent for it to have a lasting effect. If you are going to make changes in your life, let it be for the betterment of you and no other reason. Then let love find you.
Here's the key, loneliness is a state of mind. Just because you are single does not make you lonely. Being single only means that you have the option to spend time with whoever you want, whenever you want, for as long as you want, and you can enjoy time by yourself doing things you enjoy doing for yourself. Until love finds you, take time to get to know yourself and what love will look so you will know it when you see it.
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