Before D-Day- Read This
Yet another friend is headed for divorce court. It makes me wonder, how they determined when it was over? What or who pushes the big red button for the last time? Is there a certain number of infractions, the severity of one, does the issue seem too big to fix, or are there just too many issues altogether? At what point do you decide to cut your loses and walk away? I can not understand how the same two people who loved each other so much that they were secure enough in their relationship to go before their family, friends, and whatever God they serve to declare their love and commitment to each other forever, could also one day, just decide to walk away. To find oneself at the polar opposite end of your feelings towards the same person you once planned to spend the rest of your life with is unfathomable to me.
I thought the idea behind marriage was acknowledging that what you have received and are also willing to give and share with another person is the ultimate 5: love, trust, encouragement, desire, and joy in conjunction with the only rule: to get past it, work through it, and get over it together no matter what 'it' is. With that said, every relationship has a stumbling block in its path some where along the way, but despite the stumbling blocks, however many there may be, both halves of a marriage are suppose to make a decision to keep moving forward. I would like to think that despite the storm, however scary and terrifying it may be, both parties would still agree that every storm is temporary, any turbulence will cease, and the journey will be smooth again, but I also recognize that only works with the ultimate 5 and the 1 marriage rule applies.
Some issues that surface during marriage are extremely difficult, no doubt, but as long as everyone is willing to acknowledge their own imperfections, be willing to change negative acts to positive ones, and put in the work necessary for the improvement and betterment of their marriage; how can it fail? While I am a firm believer that any relationship can work, I know some relationships just will not work out for one reason or another, but before you walk away, make sure you walk away with a clean slate. Make sure you have exhausted all of your resources, have done all you can do, and truly gave it your best so when you decide to take that walk, it is with a clear conscience, an open mind, and a free heart.
I thought the idea behind marriage was acknowledging that what you have received and are also willing to give and share with another person is the ultimate 5: love, trust, encouragement, desire, and joy in conjunction with the only rule: to get past it, work through it, and get over it together no matter what 'it' is. With that said, every relationship has a stumbling block in its path some where along the way, but despite the stumbling blocks, however many there may be, both halves of a marriage are suppose to make a decision to keep moving forward. I would like to think that despite the storm, however scary and terrifying it may be, both parties would still agree that every storm is temporary, any turbulence will cease, and the journey will be smooth again, but I also recognize that only works with the ultimate 5 and the 1 marriage rule applies.
Some issues that surface during marriage are extremely difficult, no doubt, but as long as everyone is willing to acknowledge their own imperfections, be willing to change negative acts to positive ones, and put in the work necessary for the improvement and betterment of their marriage; how can it fail? While I am a firm believer that any relationship can work, I know some relationships just will not work out for one reason or another, but before you walk away, make sure you walk away with a clean slate. Make sure you have exhausted all of your resources, have done all you can do, and truly gave it your best so when you decide to take that walk, it is with a clear conscience, an open mind, and a free heart.
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