Pack Lite for the Next Chapter in Your Life*
When you are coming out of a chapter into the next, you need to pack lite. Far too often we bring baggage into new opportunities that should have been left behind. This is a common mistake made especially in relationships. Please do not allow the faults of your former love to take a front seat in your new relationship. Don't make your new partner pay the penalty for the transgressions of your former love. That will only make your new boo resentful and perhaps create issues for your relationship that would not otherwise be there.
For instance, if your former love was unfaithful, maybe you should have seen the signs sooner, maybe you could have done things differently, but you have to move forward knowing that you are better, smarter, and stronger than you were before. Take time to heal first, then give the new person in your life the opportunity to earn your love with a clean slate. Maybe your last apartment came with noisy neighbors upstairs, well, consider making your next move to a townhouse, maybe another apartment, but something on the top floor, or buy a house next. Whatever you do, make your next move, your best move (my dad always told me that), and make sure all of your experiences count towards making you the best you in your future.
Spending too much time on what was is a waste of time. Dwelling on the past will stunt your growth. Let go of the woulda, shoulda, coulda, and get with the IS, meaning, let go of the things you can not change and focus on what you can do now, who he or she is, and who you are now that you have learned from that experience. What did you take away from it? What are you doing differently now to avoid a repeat of that outcome? Avoid having to make excuses for who you are. Avoid blaming your past for your actions in the present, and be present for the new job, opportunity, or person in your life. Receive whatever lesson that part of your journey has given you with open arms, and move forward being a better version of yourself. You will come to appreciate your own growth, and attract better things and people to your life.
For instance, if your former love was unfaithful, maybe you should have seen the signs sooner, maybe you could have done things differently, but you have to move forward knowing that you are better, smarter, and stronger than you were before. Take time to heal first, then give the new person in your life the opportunity to earn your love with a clean slate. Maybe your last apartment came with noisy neighbors upstairs, well, consider making your next move to a townhouse, maybe another apartment, but something on the top floor, or buy a house next. Whatever you do, make your next move, your best move (my dad always told me that), and make sure all of your experiences count towards making you the best you in your future.
Spending too much time on what was is a waste of time. Dwelling on the past will stunt your growth. Let go of the woulda, shoulda, coulda, and get with the IS, meaning, let go of the things you can not change and focus on what you can do now, who he or she is, and who you are now that you have learned from that experience. What did you take away from it? What are you doing differently now to avoid a repeat of that outcome? Avoid having to make excuses for who you are. Avoid blaming your past for your actions in the present, and be present for the new job, opportunity, or person in your life. Receive whatever lesson that part of your journey has given you with open arms, and move forward being a better version of yourself. You will come to appreciate your own growth, and attract better things and people to your life.
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