What To Do About The Difficult People?

Be honest, there are some people in our lives that are a little harder to love. (You know who they are.) Try as you might, you can not overlook the extensive amount of energy they drain from you. Be it the Debbie-downers who can never find something to get happy about no matter how good life gets, or the drama queens that always catch every earth shattering problem of the world on their everso fragile shoulders; everyone has at least one of these. By no means can you ignore Too-Chatty-Kathy, you simply can not tell her anything you deem a secret or not already public knowledge e.g. the sky is blue or President Obama won the election; the selfish attention seeker to whom nothing is nearly ever as important as anything they have to do or say for themselves, or the cynic for which everything is falling apart instead of into place. They are truly convinced that they know all that is wrong with the world-everything. Well, all of that said, they all need love too. Their issue, whichever it may be, is only a part of their whole.  That said, what do you do with the difficult people? One thing is for sure, you have limitations you should be aware of; they can not and will not change until they themselves choose to work on their issues. Thus, you can not burden yourself with that. Overcoming their weaknesses are apart of their journey, not yours. You are only in control, in charge, and responsible for your behavior, you attitude, and the energy you bring into a room. At the same time, while you certainly would feel bad if you cut them out of your life completely, you have to have limitations, boundaries, and find balance. So what do you do when their actions, words, or intention is unacceptable? The best you can do is protect yourself. For instance, some relationships require some distance, and it may become necessary to love them from afar for a while. Energy is so easily transferred so you have to monitor how much negative exposure you allow into your life. Sometimes you will have to say 'no' or press ignore when they call. Guilt may be waiting for you in your head, but one of your most important jobs in this life is to protect your heart. Remind yourself of your biggest objective, to express your purpose and share your joy. That said, you should not require that you repeatedly put yourself on the receiving end of someone else's bad vibes. You must keep a watchful eye on the less than positive energies in your life and make certain they are not toxifying your mind, your heart, or your space. There is nothing wrong with minimizing the opportunities you allow negative people to have to impress their toxic energy onto you. Do all that is necessary to maintain your positive energy more often than not. Your purpose is to work on becoming your best self, leave bettering them to someone else.

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