5 Magic Rules to Getting MR./MRS. Right in 2012
Want to jump-start your search for Mr. /Mrs. Right this year? Here are a few simple rules that will help you get a renewed lease on dating and love in 2012. Life is too short for 10 rules so here's 5. Good Luck, and Happy Dating!
1. Know what you want, and mean it. When you don’t know what you want, you just might begin trying any and every option that comes your way. That is a waste of time and a road map to Dramatown, Crazytown, or Beatdown-town. You get the picture. Choose wisely. There's nothing wrong with being selective as long as you remain realistic.
2. Have a conversation. No texting or emailing, but a real verbal interaction. You can tell a lot about a person’s personality and your compatibility just in their tone, their laughter, attentiveness, and the flow. After two conversations you should definitely know if you want to see this person or not.
3. If you list them, they will come… seriously, the list is critical. It forces you to really determine what you are looking for. How can you be searching for something, but don’t know what it looks like? Your list should consist of all the traits you find attractive, however, make this list with the understanding that he or she will not possess ALL of these features, but they should definitely cover the big ones.
4. Your friends are your biggest allies on the dating scene. Don’t shy away from an invitation for a blind date. Be open to it, and let your friends know you are. Who better to run a prescreening of your potential boo than those that know you best? Meanwhile, do your part and go to the bar, jazz club, bowling, or whatever it is that you do and sell it! Look the part.
5. Explore your prospects from all angles not just the oblique corner of your desire to be in a relationship. Everyone you date should be in the running for your friendship first. Offer that alone to weed out the booty-chasers and pole-hoppers. Be very clear that you are looking to begin friendship with the potential to grow into something more. You don't want to waste your time or theirs if your intentions are off course you can quickly cut your loses without anyone getting hurt. You will not be compatible with everyone so don't try to force; you'll only delay the inevitable. Instead, cut your loses and move on to the next (potentially) great catch.
1. Know what you want, and mean it. When you don’t know what you want, you just might begin trying any and every option that comes your way. That is a waste of time and a road map to Dramatown, Crazytown, or Beatdown-town. You get the picture. Choose wisely. There's nothing wrong with being selective as long as you remain realistic.
2. Have a conversation. No texting or emailing, but a real verbal interaction. You can tell a lot about a person’s personality and your compatibility just in their tone, their laughter, attentiveness, and the flow. After two conversations you should definitely know if you want to see this person or not.
3. If you list them, they will come… seriously, the list is critical. It forces you to really determine what you are looking for. How can you be searching for something, but don’t know what it looks like? Your list should consist of all the traits you find attractive, however, make this list with the understanding that he or she will not possess ALL of these features, but they should definitely cover the big ones.
4. Your friends are your biggest allies on the dating scene. Don’t shy away from an invitation for a blind date. Be open to it, and let your friends know you are. Who better to run a prescreening of your potential boo than those that know you best? Meanwhile, do your part and go to the bar, jazz club, bowling, or whatever it is that you do and sell it! Look the part.
5. Explore your prospects from all angles not just the oblique corner of your desire to be in a relationship. Everyone you date should be in the running for your friendship first. Offer that alone to weed out the booty-chasers and pole-hoppers. Be very clear that you are looking to begin friendship with the potential to grow into something more. You don't want to waste your time or theirs if your intentions are off course you can quickly cut your loses without anyone getting hurt. You will not be compatible with everyone so don't try to force; you'll only delay the inevitable. Instead, cut your loses and move on to the next (potentially) great catch.
I love this girl!! I had no idea you were writing! will DIFF be checking this out :)!
ReplyDeleteThanks, AD! Yes, I've been writing for a long time... I just got the courage to share it with the world! =)
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