Dear Giver, Who Will Show Up For You?

When you are a giver it is very easy to be taken for granted. When people need you, you tend to show up even at the expense of your personal responsibilities. While it is crucial that you maintain your nature, it is difficult to be true to yourself after the experience of being used. Admittedly, it is easy to want to change how you show up, how often, and to what degree you support the people in your life. The balancing act of how much is too much and learning who is deserving is such a hard practice to take in, but it forces you to slow down and think about the consequences that come with every decision to show up. Do yourself a favor and take stock of the people in your circle. This practice forces you to decipher who belongs in your circle and who does not; it is a form of self-preservation. You do not have to change the kind, loving, generous person you are, just be mindful of the people you are giving yourself to. When you do figure out the difference between people who are appreciative and the ones taking advantage, you see how it is so necessary and well worth it to create and practice that discipline. More often than not be in the presence of like-minded people, and you will lose the desire to change who you are. Surround yourself with people who will show up for you just as much as you are willing to show up for them. Be kind to everyone, but when it is time to show up, make sure you will not regret it. ~Come check out the latest on http://twitter.com/_TheAnswerKey & fb.me/TheAnswerKey for more positive posts!

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